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Misunderstandings – February 20, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

This year I have renewed a goal to learn to speak, read and write French. I want to learn and add new languages, least to learn the language well enough and continue to use the language so that I have 4 or 5 languages which I can converse and I am hoping to also understand the culture. This year maybe longer work on French. My maternal Grandmother, whom I never had the opportunity to meet, spoke French, originally came from Quebec and her family was from France. In following years I want to learn Spanish, and add to my understanding of German. I haven’t decided what language should follow but I hope to fluently know 4 or 5. The more the better.

Knowledge and a desire to learn can help us to understand some of the times when just by being who we are others can perceive something totally different. Being aware of cultural differences can also help avoid, hopefully doing or saying something that is offensive.

I was reminded of this when I was minding my own business and a family sat behind me. The child that was with them was having a difficult time and was screaming and crying. I was attempting to keep focused on writing and listening to music but occasionally it would be such a noise that it would I believe resurrect the dead. I mumble to myself but honestly most the time I was involved in my writings that it was not an issue. Then wham something happened to my left. I had people screaming at me and two police officers were asking me questions. I was unaware that I was about to be assaulted for the young father thought I was threatening his child. Wow, how did this even transpire?

The young father thought I said something about using a weapon. I admit I have taken courses in self defense and I believe am quite capable of disarming or protecting myself if the need arises. I however am truly a gentle giant and the thought of fighting or touching weapons is not who I am. I don’t partake in contact sports or watch them for this reason. I avoid violence at all possible times. I was forced to participate in wrestling in junior high and if I wouldn’t try to pin the other guy than let him pin me. I don’t like being put into those situations. So needless to say I didn’t do well in this part of the class. I would rather play cribbage, or other non-violent games. I also prefer to meet new friends or possible friends.

The wife or girlfriend saved me from this young father’s blow, which is what I seen. People around me assumed I threatened the young man and were mean, angry and yelling at me. Me, I was totally confused! Still am, I don’t know what he heard that he thought I was endangering his child’s life. I know I was working on a writing project and might have mumbled to myself. However it was my thoughts, wasn’t directed to anyone and I attempted to just focus on my task and not let other things bother my thinking.

For me it was a lesson to not be so focused on what I am doing that I am not aware of what is transpiring around me. Also, it is important to be very careful in body language, reactions to external events and be sure I am not mumbling to myself. We affect those around us daily. Who knows what it is going to take to set someone off as feeling offended? It’s important to be aware and if you feel the person or persons around you are unstable then move. I felt safe where I was but still need to be more aware. I also have to be sure that what I am doing doesn’t have the opportunity to offend anyone. If what I do offends anyone it was never intended to so.

Take away from this are to always be aware. To always be intune to the environment. Even if others are being disruptive it is best to just leave potential conflicts. The bad part of this incident for me besides all the negative staring and judgements from people who were also unaware the dealing with the questions and negative responses of those around me left me upset. Rather than a calm ride home I had heartburn, was feeling poorly and misunderstood. Negative reactions and memories stay with us much longer than the should. We feel violated and wronged which may be true, but it is important to let these feelings go and get back to calm and peace as soon as possible. As these negative emotions actually cause the body to breakdown and promote feeling bad and illness.

Yes I am sorry if someone mistook any action, look, thought or word as a threat. That is not who I am or what I have been writing about for so many years! I will work to be more aware of my environment and look to being the peace I seek.

Persistence, Never Getting Tired of Doing – February 19, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

What do you do if you broke your commitment to say exercising at least 5-7 days a week?

I had a couple issues which I needed to take a short break from the exercise routine to avoid potential longer lasting injury. The problem with this is you break the momentum and you start a new habit of not exercising. My athletic trainer from several years back wanted payment and commitment to 3x a week and for an agreement for months of training not just one of two sessions. He also expected you to be there, on time, no excuses.

I remember feeling ill and calling him to cancel one of our sessions. He stated you are obviously alive and I expect you to keep your session. I arrived and wasn’t happy about having to keep the appointment. However, as he explained often the sick feeling is just an excuse we tend to find ways to avoid the pain of exercise. He explained why he asked for the commitment and stated we needed to get to the point where missing an exercise session would make you feel guilty, or missing something. The lack of exercise would gnaw at your being. After the exercise session he asked how I felt and surprising I felt fine. He added it also tends to drive away illness. Know I realize a lot of the illness or feeling poorly is largely do to thought!

Your broke your commitment. Congratulations! Time to start again! No Excuses!

Getting up off it and putting yourself into motion – Part two – January 24, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

I think the biggest challenge is to convince yourself to try to make a success out of whatever project you are seeking or to reach a dream you hope to reach! What keeps you from trying? Fear, fear of failure or of success. Seems downright silly when you look at it. Take a step, it is not like falling off a log (tried that once, but I was tethered so I couldn’t hurt myself). Funny part about that exercise was that there was still a moment (for me several) where I didn’t keep the momentum going and fear, waves of fear kept me standing on the log 20 feet off the ground and all I could do in hug the pole. I couldn’t fail so bad that I would hurt myself. I could find out that I could walk the log. Worst case, I would fall off the log and the safety crew would land me softly on the ground (unless I upset a few of them). When I started to walk I slipped but I asked the ground crew to keep me to where I could try to recover. It is amazing at that point the fear was nowhere to be found.

Getting up off it and putting yourself into motion – January 23, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

Many of use are always seeking the secrets to success. Success in life, relationship, business, health or whatever it may be. Sometimes inaction creates fear which paralyzes the person hoping to find the clue to being a success. The great truth is we all know the basics. You can not discover anything without taking the first steps and continuing to do something until you have some results. Once you have some results you can tell if the process is working or not. Maybe it is doing something but the results are poor. At this point your concern is to have the data to determine how to continue.

You might state well if it isn’t working maybe I need to back off, and regroup and try again. That’s fine if you really are that afraid of succeeding! Whatever you do you want to keep the momentum working for you. You just do not want to keep starting over from the beginning. After a few times of this and your likely not going to try again. It’s just how we are wired! That is why we don’t accept I tried a couple things that didn’t work, or dozens or hundreds or even thousands. Had Thomas Edison stopped before reaching a 1000 ways not to discover electricity we would all be buying lamp oil or candles today. Not all efforts will take 100’s or 1000’s of ways before finding something that works. Truman Capote stated that his submission to publishers were never rejected. The key is to keep working the plan, until you have something to measure, is the process working? is their something that can be changed?

So just get up off it! Do it! and continue doing it until you get the results you are seeking.

Tenacity , part two – January 22, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

What if you make a mistake and what you choose for your life purpose is wrong? I believe that there was a reason for this and you simply do as everyone else does and alter the purpose. However if you have a passion, and drive that you felt strong about, you may just need to rediscover what drove you in this direction. It is easy to give and do things without enjoying life along the way. Maybe you lost track because you were not enjoying life?

You have to take care of you and your dream. If you don’t take some time to rejuvenate the spirit then like the body the spirit becomes ill and soured to always giving and not experiencing the joys. However if you reward yourself and enjoy life along the way the joy remains and is strengthened. We need to experience life and joy.

Tenacity – January 21, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

The dictionary states the meaning of Tenacity is to grasp something firmly. It is persistence with passion. It is determination on boosters. A person who knows the purpose for why they are alive, who knows what needs to be done, who is proud of the idea which has took hold of the person.

How do we get to this point? Why hasn’t your purpose been discovered? I have prayed and asked probably thousand of times in not millions for my purpose to be shown to me. I decided that either I wasn’t worthy or maybe it wasn’t time for me to know my purpose. Maybe I already had been shown and have ignored the call. It wasn’t until I watched, “The Secret” and Neil David Walsh spoke about purpose that I realized the answer lies within each of us. Our interest, desires and passions are keys to our purpose. Our purpose is up to us to write and bring to light. Therefore we were given the purpose and we are left to discover and create based on our findings.

Energy Vampires – January 20, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

Do as much as you can each day! Do not put off until tomorrow what is within your grasp to do today. The problem here is that made your plate is too full. You need exercise, you need to eat and you need rest. From a business perspective this overhead is something which you can not cheat and if you do you will pay in your health. Depending on how much neglect you might not recover from neglecting yourself. So build it in to the schedule and don’t let your health become a sacrifice. There are so many other things that can be sacrificed least for a while; TV, Social events, reading, me time and I am sure you can identify a couple of places where changes can be made.

Are you building a team? Are you taking care of everything yourself? Cooking, cleaning, mowing the lawn, repairs and upkeep, car repair, financial reports, washing the car? There are other household duties which if you found another member of your team they could be taking care of these issues while you are working on your dream or goal. How bad do you want success?

Broken items around the home. Piles of items that need your attention. If you have so much that you feel you need to organize your files first, you probably need a personal assistant to add to your team. You can not move your goal or dream forward and try to play catch up from years of neglect. The pile of uncompleted activities needs to be removed. You need to be able to move without feeling like you are never going to catch up. Here you may need to take some time to decide what is critical put it in a pile and pick the first item and work on it until completed, then pick up the next until you have that pile completed. Again a personal assistant could be most helpful in doing these task. The next is to put a pile for doesn’t matter, one for garbage, donate or pass to another – likely if you don’t know what to do with it that it really probably should be discarded. Do you see where this is going? The pile of clothes you need to mend so you can wear, get them mended, donate them or if they are bad trash them. The pile of items that need fixed, either fix them, donate them or trash them. Each time you walk by these items they are energy vampires and they are sucking the life blood out of you. Get them out of the picture and you will not have this affecting you. Do you feel you have to make all the phone calls? Really are the phone calls productive? I have heard many phone calls from businessmen where they are acting busy and not doing what they need to do? Are you really taking care of activities which will promote you dreams or goals?

What is sapping your strength? Is it something that directly involves your health, family, dreams or goals? Is it something you can delegate to a team member? But you say there is nobody around that I could entrust this too. Then you might want to look into battering, or hiring someone to help in this area. Ask yourself how can I spend more productive time on the goal or dream? List it, do not judge. Then look at the list and ask how can I make this happen and write it down.

Eliminating the energy vampires will move your closer to success!

Checkup – January 19, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

Dream / Goal – You should have one. If you are reading these post there is an excellent chance you already do.

Have you wrote down the Dreams and or goals? If not why not? You should also be keeping a journal. I would suggest daily entries even if the entries are short, concise. You are wanting to measure what is working and what is not. One of the best ways is to keep a journal. Much like when going to the doctor, the doctor may ask you to keep a journal of you daily activities. This allows you and the doctor to see trends. Same idea here. I have been keeping journal for many years. I have been regular but not daily. This year I am keeping a daily record. It’s not a 100% of what goes on each day but a general gist of the activities. Major ones are covered in more details. Brian Tracy states that a goal which is written down has boosted the chance for successful completion dramatically. Why because one it is written, no more just a thought, it has literally been created. The other is that it know gains more focus because it involves more parts of the brain, even if you never read the entry again! Awesome news!

You have taken action daily on achieving your dream or goal. This is not cleaning your desk, arranging files, this is actively contacting others or writing if your dream is to publish a book or getting support from team members. It is an action, that you do to cause the dream or goal to come closer to completion. If it doesn’t do this than why are you wasting your time?

After a week or so are you measuring your progress? Is it working? Is it not working? If not working, what can be changed that might allow it to work or work better? Have you implemented that change? From here it is the same exercise over and over until you find what works and what does’t. When should you quit? When you have achieved your dream or goal.

Imagination – January 18, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

Most children have a very active imagination! It is only when we achieve adulthood that the imagination we find is often taboo and looked upon as being childish. We grow up, or may I take the liberty to say, we die to our childhood and our imagination. There is a song in the musical “Babes in Toyland” where it states that once the door has been shut to childhood there is no going back. Actually that is a misunderstanding. It takes time to combat the years of negativity and suggestion that this is the real world and you need to have your thoughts in the here and now rather than in childish imaginings.

I don’t know about you but I rally behind someone who is able to keep or retain their imagination! I have some, but I used to have more. I am exercising my will to allow more creativity and imagination. I cannot think of any reason why anyone would impose these rules. I guess partially out of being protective and knowing that others are not always impressed with an active imagination. It is sad, as the world would be in a much better place.

We are creative creatures. We were given to dream dreams and have visions and then set out to make those things happen! It is inherent in each one of us! We just have to find it and release it from years of bondage!

What is your commitment to seeing your dream or goal completed? – January 17, 2016 – By Danny J. Stevens

Sometime commitment sounds so scary. It is a fact of life. If you want a marriage to succeed or even happen commitment is required. If you want to learn how to play the piano, it is going to take a commitment to practice daily, practice scales and learn how to read music. You also have to learn the terminology. It wont happen in a few weeks or months so you need to commit to taking time each day to learn how to play the piano. You should also have the same commitment to a relationship if you expect it to work. Your goal or dream is a relationship of sorts. You have to commit to it daily! If you are in a physical relationship you and your partner need to make the commitment as if one does and one doesn’t a wedge is being planted not only in the goal or dream but the physical relationship.

Tough question? It is and you need to talk it over with your partner. Then when the commitment is made stick to it!

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